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This is so. The tribe of "light workers" has turned out to be very human. Just last year, one of the people I have utmost respect for in my community fell into an indulgence of soul-mate mythology
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. What followed was a parade of gods from astral levels that cavorted like soap-opera characters. Her "incarnated ascended master" turned out to have feet of clay. Her heart made sad, her time felt wasted
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I recalled a long-bearded teacher of mine years ago saying to me (as I asked him about soul-mates): "Soul mates might exist, but if they do, it's not wise to marry them." And I have to agree. The friction on any relationship caused by the circumstances of life in the 3D plane is more than most spiritual partnerships can bear. Financial troubles, parenting differences, infidelity, leaving the toilet seat up...
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these mundane things get in the way. We continue to romanticise sexual relationships, or partner relationships, because we constantly hope that the relationship will make us happy
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. But happiness will not happen in that way. Joy, peace come from the integration of the soul parts of the elephant. Some of this can happen in 3D, some can happen only on other levels.
The karmic contracts we invariably have with our partners make them our greatest teachers, for better or for worse. But now, if the karmic system is gone, we can cancel those contracts and operate in those relationships from a fresh position of choice. This takes courage, and removes from us the ability to blame the partner for anything. It also forces us to interrogate our own psychology - to ask of ourselves why we seek from relationships what we do.
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