Thank you for the feedback! I agree, small steps are great. There is a bullshit thought which says: "You/I must make BIG progress, or you should do nothing at all!!!/you shouldn't even bother!!" Listening to that is paralysing.Δύναμις wrote:Grayfox wrote: If I am in quite a good and relaxed mood, I can attempt to "face" this a little bit, by thinking of something (which I might like to do) that will trigger the pain response, and face it with the KNOWING that it is NOT THE REAL ME, that it is NOT A PART OF ME [the real me], and that it DOES NOT BELONG. With some stubborn determination, I can manage to dissolve some of these triggers, or at least, some of the layers. But there seems to be plenty of them. I will keep up my "slow-and-steady progress". I'm sure the cleanings will get 'em all sooner or later
(Other tools I am using for these issues when they arise: Dropbox, SuP)
Oh, yes! There are thousands of layers and triggers and almost all of them are scheduled and they will be removed as soon as possible.
In the meanwhile keep up your way to cope with things that give you pain and for sharing!
It is indeed a wise method to wait for the right moment (being relaxed and in good mood) and confront yourself with the trigger. In this case you are in control of the situation and you can consciously go against whatever bothers you. You are in charge of the situation and your emotions at the same time. Well done!
Keep up your progress! Better tiny steps than none at all.Grayfox wrote: And to the point that it is very difficult to think clearly / make good decisions when the "false ego" gets triggered, yes, absolutely. The tremendous 'storehouse' of pain is more than enough to temporarily disable/cripple one's logical and calm thinking functions as long as it is actively hurting you [from my experience] - sometimes for a LONG time. Certain things triggers for this, some are worse than others. Weddings can be a BAD one!
Weddings are always a bad trigger, yes!
Most of the weddings are the pure competition among the guests: who is wearing the best or most expensive clothes, who has the biggest car, who made the most generous gift and so on. Better keep away from weddings, especially your own!!!
I will strongly consider your tip about weddings!!
The second part, I already agree about